violence and pregnancy
violence is many things. While most people invision physical
violence, it can also include verbal abuse as well as sexual
abuse (yes, even if he is your partner). Once you are pregnant,
domestic violence can become an even larger issue.
and foremost, it isn't safe for you or your unborn child to
remain in a domestic violence situation. It only takes one
blow to the stomach to cause severe damage to the developing
baby, or even the loss of the baby.
domestic violence tends to escalate during stress, and that
includes stress of a pregnancy (both wanted and unwanted by
your partner), impending birth, and during the time after
the baby is born.
you feel that everything will change after the baby is born,
unless your partner is actively participating in anger management
classes to change his behavior, it will not. And it will most
likely get much worse.
worry about money or the security your partner provides in
your relationship. Your life and the life of your baby is
much more important.
in a family member, close friend or your physician for support
to leave. Your physician will be able to recommend you to
resources in your community which are for victims of domestic
violence. There may be transition houses where you can reside
until you can find a place to live and get on your feet. Many
cities and states also have domestic violence hotlines, where
you can phone for support resources as well.
Online, you can
visit the National
Domestic Violence Hotline Website. You can also find the
Violence Coalition in your state.
as hard as it is to leave, the effects of your staying can
be devastating. Nothing is more important that your safety,
and the safety of your unborn baby, and leaving is the only
way to ensure that.